How to deal with life in your 20s

Looking back I thought my teenage years were the toughest part of life.Oh boyyy I was completely wrong!The scariest part is that is just the beginning and I'm already struggling.First I want it to be clear,I am not a life coach or anything of this kind , I'm not pretending to know a lot of things or to be perfect.I am only 20 and I'm still learning to integrate the adult life which I am failing at till now.Lol

Life's full of ups and downs for everyone maybe in different ways but we're all struggling. Just remember difficult roads always lead to beautiful destinations!

1. The first thing that should be clear in your mind is that you're not supposed to figure out everything now.You might be stucked and confused because you don't know where you're going.But trust the Lord, for sure great things are waiting for you ahead.Patience is key,it is of no use to stress over things that aren't under our control.Great things take time, believe in you!

2. Don't compare yourself to anybody.Just don't do that. I've been comparing myself to anyone that was achieving things that we actually call 'goals' in their lives and the only thing that it brought me was sadness, low self-esteem and I lost all trust in myself.If your friends are graduating,settling down,getting married and you're doing nothing of these it doesn't mean you're any less worthy.It's difficult I won't lie saying I don't struggle and everything is going on smoothly for me .It is not. Rather than comparing yourself look up to people who have less than you surely you'll be more grateful for what you have.

3 .Take risks and be positive.Nothing new in your 20's you're still looking to where you belong or what you want to do.But if you fail in something never give up try something else until you find what's perfect for you.

4 .Don't get fooled by social media.Unfortunately where social media should be a platform where we could freely express each other,it has become the place where everyone looks for perfection.Social media is the reason why most youngsters are suffering from anxiety and depression. The reason being we look up to so many people who seem to be perfect.People only post the good sides of their life on social media.It's something that all of us need to understand.All of us are willing to look ridiculous in public just to have a bomb photo (especially us bloggers lol).You won't see people posting themselves crashing in tears at 3 a.m.We only show the good parts of our life over the internet.

5. Accept the beautiful person we are molding into.We all undergo changes during our 20s ; our bodies change,our minds change,our perception of life is changed.We just need to accept ourselves and embrace our changes.One day we'll look back and we'll understand why we were going through all of these.

Nobody's life is perfect.People will want you to start a career,know what you want  and all of the serious stuffs but all of these can't happen in this difficult phase of life.Do your best and don't stress too much. We won't like to tell our kids their parents were depressed in their 20's where life was supposed to be full adventure,love and joy.
Of course we would like to have advice from the elders to help us through.Embrace your flaws and spread love wherever you are.I hope you have an amazing Sunday!

Inspired islander